Rise & Shine III

[melissag]

3, it is freezing cold here too, kids are with H, and I wish we could get together for a drink!!

I totally feel you on the house. I don't even like my house anymore. H and I picked it out and fell in love with it, and said we would live in It forever. It's so depressing now with H's empty bathroom and closet, a few pieces of missing furniture, and all the material stuff I have that I would give away in a heartbeat if I could just have my family be whole.

My pity party has gone on way too long today. You are my inspiration to cut it out! I don't think I am up for trashy TV (you know it's a really bad day if I'm not watching the Bachelor), but I am going to make a list of things I am grateful for and you are on it!!

[juliegayle]

Hmm can I join you ladies for a drink. Just cracked open my bottle of wine. No TV but my escape of choice is cheesy paranormal chik lit. It is definitely one of those nights.

[melissag]

Of course, Julie! Here's to us, and to being brave, standing tall, and being great Moms. Cheers! (Clink!)

[3boymom]

Cheers!!

[bluesgal]

Watching Real Housewives in my bedroom...alone. Kids in bed. H downstairs.

I hate being in my house now, too. I designed it and we built it together on H's family land. We had so many dreams and plans. Now we had a realtor walk through it and I met with a L today. Scary stuff. I'll post on my thread later. Just not ready to right now.

Good thing our kids have one parent who is putting them first.

Sorry 3. Must be tough looking into your house from the outside. Strange thinking about that.

[melissag]

I know that other people's sitches always look better (grass is greener, right?) but at least you guys have your H in the house (even just some of the time). Even when my H was sleeping downstairs on the couch, at least I had him here. And I saw him a lot. And I could do my 180s and things felt normal and not awkward. And 3, my H won't have any part in tucking kids in here - if he is ever here around bedtime, he leaves the second it gets close. The funny part is, every time he walks in the door to get the kids, he unzips his jacket and takes off his shoes, as if he's coming in and is going to stay. Then I shove the kids at him and he zips back up and puts the shoes back on. He's a dork.

Blues, what are you drinking tonight? I am sick so I stuck with limeade, but you can still clink with it!

[bluesgal]

Ah, Melissa-I am sick, too. I was drinking lemon water. Boring

[juliegayle]

Blue sorry for the mini hijack. .

Melissa I hear what you say about having H is house. I am really torn about this. The benefit of course is S being with me every night. On the other hand it is really hard having someone who At BEST ignores you around. I feel like I am hiding out in my room all the time and I have to see all those daily reminders of OW. The only time I can dance around and be a complete dork is when he is at work. On the other hand when he does go I know the whole grieving process will start all over.

No right or wrong or better way just something that I think about a lot of the time.

[juliegayle]

Oops forgot whose thread. . Sorry 3.

[bluesgal]

I'll throw in my 2cents on this mini hijack

I'm finding the other disadvantage of H being at home is cake eating. There is no reality of what life would be like if we were D. There are no consequences to H bad behavior right now. His house is clean, bills paid, kids cared for, family supper every night. He can tuck the kids in...then go "for a ride" for 5 hours and visit his A partner. All while I do everything, then sleep alone. Really, I don't see true advantages to either side.