No, same room, same bed. Since middle of October. I am unsure about this. Do I date?
Personally I think it's way too soon for that, you're not even 3 months since BD. My opinion is that you need to do the work on yourself first and give your W plenty of time and space.
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But it is so lonely living like this. Not to mention missing sex! Any suggested amounts of time one should stay like this?
I really think everyone should give their sitch at least a year to resolve. In DR MWD says that you should allow 1 month for every year you were married, so in your case that would be 20 months. I'm not sure there's any solid basis for that, but rather it's probably based on what she's seen over the years in helping recovering couples, just kind of a general rule of thumb. But the point is these sitches often take MUCH longer to resolve than most people expect.
Regarding the sex question, it's an adjustment to be sure. But your body will adjust. Sex was never an issue with my W and I, we consistently had sex 2 to 3 times a week throughout our M. When that stopped it felt to me like the world might end, LOL! But over a few months' time I adjusted to it, my labido went down and I just quit thinking about it so much. Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever have the same sex drive I had before because it's much lower now than it was then, but I'm sure if/ when the right person comes along she'll wake all that back up again.
