Thanks for pulling for my W and I, we need it. And if I see you and T2 along the road, I'll help with the tight coats.
I am starting to see how powerful making my W comfortable in our home and around me is working. I detialed more in my thread, but last night before we went out she said "don't be so clingy in the bar", I said I would and did as she asked. The night went well and she even opened up to me a bit.
I think she needs to feel that I trust her. I also feel that she needs to feel safe in our house from all the R talk. I can see this more clearly now as she is starting to be more comfortable around me. It's slowly going that direction but is even leaps ahead of just a few days ago. And this is mainly due to myself making an extra effort to not worry about my needs and emotions right now.
It has helped emensly to post my days here and get other eyes commenting on the sitch. Others are showing me how hard my W is trying, even when I can't see past my fears. I have to let my fears go, and truely begin to trust her again. I need to put extra effort into acting and believing "as if" I fully trusted my W. It really is helping her when I do this. Its almost like she is testing the water to see if I trust her.
If anyone has any advise on the building of trust for you S, please post up. I am finding this to be an important key to unlocking the potential for my W to fully commit to our M.
God Bless You,
Reuben
Cautiously hopeful and keeping the Momentum
