I'm really glad you have started and contributed to this thread. I know that Tal is also putting some good related information on her thread as well.
I think you've brought to light the fact that DBing will be a way of life for a really long time (maybe always) in dealing with your W and her newfound decision to work on things with you.
I have to keep telling myself that it requires allowing that person to find their own way back and just being patient that you are part of the journey. Well, hell, we could have avoided this entire experience and done that anyway, don't you think?
However, I guess it's important to keep the lessons we've learned in mind and apply them to the lives we are living (sort of like applying math to real life).
Best wishes for you and your W... I'm pulling for you, guy. Just wave at me and T24 if you see us on the side of the road wriggling out of the jackets!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
