I agree with GM I don't think you screwed up at all, your W had not told you of anything that has been going on.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I don't think you screwed up at all, your W had not told you of anything that has been going on.