I find that I just let it go alot these days. .. I only force the issue when I think kids well being may be in jeopardy.

I am a person who NEVER let it go so this is a total 180 and actually makes life so much easier.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15