Very difficult questions to answer 2old. We are in similar boats and on similar waves, what to do? Sandi's comment is so matter of fact, but still hard for us to take: "why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you" and maybe that is what the WAS thinks. I agree with you, this is not what we deserve with regards to the way our WAS did this. We deserve better.....full stop. Should you file or not? That is a question only you can answer. My question back is, what is the good and bad of filing or not filing? What will it do for you in life, if you filed? Would it still be the same if you didn't file? In my opinion, the filing is the final chance/hope. I know others say it is just paperwork, but to me, there is nothing more left. So 2old are you ready to do that? Will it make you feel better? Will it improve your life by doing it? Speaking for myself, I would agree with whatever you chose.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
