2S2Q, great analogy. I will keep that tucked away in my mind for when I need a reminder.
labug, thank you for sharing part of your story. When I spoke with my DB coach today, she said she has heard plenty of WASs say this kind of stuff, but very rarely is someone narcissistic enough for it to actually be true. Not that that necessarily helps me - if he figures this one out, he can always go the OW route next. Regardless, thanks for your vote of confidence. I know I can do this, because I don't have a choice. I just hope I can do it right and well. At least I have the trip we just went on to think of when I need a reminder that not all is hopeless, and there is happiness even if H is off doing his selfish thing.
3bm - you are on fire with the awesome advice lately - not just on my thread, either. In any of this, has the thought crossed your H's mind that perhaps the problem is himself? I see what you are saying about the momentum going in the wrong direction - I do think that it would be extremely difficult for my H to change his mind at this point.
UD - thanks as always for your support. I am so glad you found my thread and continue to post! I will definitely keep up the GAL. Today is particularly difficult because of the lack of sleep and the illness. Hopefully that won't last long. And yes, i will think of H swimming in another pod . . . that part I can do, but the hard part is not wondering if he is swimming OK, who is he swimming with, is he swimming back toward my pod? A work in progress.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
