I would hate to see anyone give up because the process sounds overwhelming. Please keep in mind that while all of this stuff is true--it is not intensly displayed all of the time and it doesn't have to be the primary focus. These are things that will pop up from time to time, less and less over time.
Our spouses may have parallel fears--that if they come home, they may be overwhelmed by (and punished with) the hurt and anger that we probably (yeah right, lol) still carry. In reality though--we spend most of our efforts trying to stabilize and rebuild our R's, and only occassionally flip out, right?
I think piecing is hard for a variety of reasons. One of the biggest challenges is trying to identify and change destructive patterns and bad habits that were likely a part of our "old" R.
For many--those changes in the R are things we have prayed for for a long time. It just ain't all salt and it ain't all sugar.
