//there just aren't many women who would do that.//
Maybe not, but I only need to find one. I know I am that kind of man.
//by just having a "talk"// It wouldn't be just a "talk". It would be a long dating process to evaluate her character. A look into her history, how she treats her parents, her willingness to communicate directly with me.
Most importantly, there is a spiritual component to it. I avoid talking about religion on this site, because it gets so much criticism, and the majority of people here quickly dismiss it. I believe that a commitment and belief in Jesus Christ is the most important characteristic in a woman. Only after she has surrendered her body and soul to Christ, is she capable of loving you. The same goes for the man.
Once two people are fully surrendered to christ, then they are capable of a long term, fully committed relationship.
The resentment you describe and the issues accuracy describes all stem from a love of self - "What will make me happy?". A woman who has surrendered to God, has replaced her love of self for a love of God. From that foundation, she is capable of loving her husband. This is not a fantasy, I see it in relationships all around me and I know that this is what was missing from my relationship.
The intimacy that Adinva talks about, flows from a foundation of submission to Christ.
For someone who is not a Christian, I realize that this sounds like pure nonsense.
