You are right Ruby. Absolutely spot on with this question.and this is what I need to be thinking about and focusing on... What I want / will do regardless of what h wants..

So ...

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home