FY, I agree w/AJ...your changes are very good once she's worked things out in head, heart and life. Continue as you have been. I've put in an order for more patience shovels and will send the largest and brightest one your way. LOL!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
W asked if I wanted to join her at a birthday party for one of her girl friend / coworkers next Saturday. Surprised the heck out of me... I thought I was cooties!
The party went well. They had a really talented Elvis impersonator put on a full show.
Don't be cruel to a heart that's true. I don't want no other love, Baby it's just you I'm thinking of.
We had fun and I got to see glimpses of the new person W is becoming. Way more comfortable and outgoing than she was pre-crises. Dancing in place, singing along, showing me the pics and posts she was putting up on FB.
The old W used to avoid party's, or be quiet and reserved when she went.
Maybe a wee bit more comfortable around me now too?
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Yay! AJ says W and I are gonna make it, (that's what I read) and job is sending me a fancy and free patience shovel. Thanks guys. Other than these two things, I have zero expectations.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
Hey FY, I'm thinking I see some small progress, too. I also agree with you, that you may need to shake things up a bit. Not so much as to scare her away, but, just enough so she realizes things cant go on like this forever.
I sure wish she would go to a therapist. Sigh............
