It's not until the LBS is out of the picture that the WAS can see the LBS is not the root of all of their problems after all, and maybe then they start addressing the internal causes of their unhappiness.
Here is my fear. That he has already figured out that I was not the sole source of his misery, but now thinks that the source of his misery is being in a relationship with expectations and obligations. And that he will strop right there with his self discovery because he thinks he has the answer.
But, I know what you will say! That isn't my sh!t to worry about. I gotta focus on me. And I will. Because even if I am the best spouse on earth, and H just doesn't want a spouse, now or ever, then at least I will be the best person I can be.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
