What I really want is for my H to get his sh!t together and do the work he needs to do, but it sure doesn't seem like that's going to happen
We ALL want our WAS's to take that journey NOW, who wants to wait? But they're on their own schedule. Here's the problem- the WAS will not begin their journey until the LBS is almost done with theirs. The LBS has to become the spouse only a fool would leave, regain their self-esteem and independence and totally let go of the WAS. And THEN the WAS BEGINS their journey. It's not until the LBS is out of the picture that the WAS can see the LBS is not the root of all of their problems after all, and maybe then they start addressing the internal causes of their unhappiness.
