A Voyage Into The MLCer Mind

[Ambivalent]

Mine was battling with it for almost a year before the actual move out. I was seeing it, but just figured he would work it out. Prior to that he was in denial, and doing things to nest. That is why it was such a shock. He spent 11,000.00 on redoing our family room.

What guy does that when he wants to leave?

Anyhoo fast forward, now it as if he's doing the "what the logical next step is supposed to be "...Kind of like what happens after you've been dating someone seriously.

The logical step is ...we're a couple, we get engaged, we get married...

He's doing that now, he ran away, now he thinks it's time to do a separation agreement or property agreement.

I can then see him thinking it's time to divorce...it ia all so surreal.

Since we've been together for over 33 years as a couple, everything I read says they take the longest to wake up.

I know he wants a " life partner ". So that will be the "next step" after the big D?

I'm just trying to get support and save the house. Divorce busting along the way. My only contact has been about bills , and in e-mails.

It is so much easier this way. He has no bravery, so he will not call.