I would not put conditions on the money. either you are comfortable giving it and that it or you are not. I don't know your whole situation. we are separate but do not have enough resources to separate money yet. so, I haven't had to deal with this yet although, I am starting to think about separating money soon. its been a month.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14