melissag VIII - but I'm afraid to have no fear!

[bluesgal]

Oh gosh Melissa, I wasn't expecting this. I'm so glad that you had a great vacation. What a slap in the face to return home and get that from your H.

You have a lot of great advice. I think 3 had a great plan for how to handle the rest of your week with arrangements for the kids. You are incredibly strong. You know what great progress you've made, so this is very disappointing. All this work and growth just to have H still want out?? Ugh!

Someone mentioned how he must see your changes or else he would have told you what he wanted while blaming you and he didn't. I do think that's a good sign. Someone also mentioned going dim, etc. I think that's a good idea, too. Up until now, you have been cooperative and perfectly family oriented. You've given him space and still participate in all your traditions and routines. You've had great times and ML.

Now, the tables have turned. If he wants his freedom, then no more family dinners, ML, etc. He needs to feel the reality of not having his family. He can no longer have the best of both worlds. I think this is going to be really tough. I'm there with you. My heart is aching for you right now.

I am impressed with how you held your emotions together with the text messages. You even took a break. You didn't get angry or overly emotional. You were a rock star at one of the lowest points in your life. You survived a terrible sucker punch.

I believe that WAS can change their minds. But, as we learn the hard way, there is no way to know if or when that will ever happen, no matter what we say or do. It is not in our control. Get well, M! Keep us posted!