So i wanted to motivate her to get to work so she can pull out of this funk she is in.
= controlling behavior.
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I said if you worked a 40 hour week you can contribute $800 a week to our income!!
= pressure.
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I was taking a chance by saying this so early in this process but i wanted to see how committed she is
= testing her.
You're slipping back into old habits already! Let HER deal with her funk. Let HER figure out how she can contribute more. Let HER decide how committed she is. This is not the time to start smothering her with pressure and attention. Don't try to do everything for her. Don't go into "fixit" mode. Back off and give her time and space.
