wife moved to.parents house last week scared

[paul19510]

AS thanks! Your feedback is just what I needed. I have told people that we're separate if they ask me "....so how's the W, what's she doing what's she up to these days..." I don't lie about it. there's no shame. I do say that I work on keeping healthy and taking care of my kids (that's busy enough as it is). That my W is hopefully doing what makes her happy and healthy and I pray for the best possible outcome for all of us.

As far as the waiting thing goes... I've got life lock and I watch the credit so waiting really poses no "danger" at the moment. there's no big savings for her to raid.

In the meantime, I've called the bank to understand a pricing package to buy her out of the mortgage if I need to and I have an initial consult with a L that I really trust (he's very compassionate and asked if we had tried everything first before I see him) to discuss what may need to happen to protect our whole family including W. I will not share that with W b/c I think it would seriously spook her

You're right about the changing feelings. We've been NC since Friday. the longest period of silence since it happen. The only thing I sent her was the usual Sunday night email per my DB coach stating this week's upcoming news/events at the house. I may have slipped a little on this note, I put a final sentence that said, "today makes one month since we separated..." No horrible, but probably not necessary. Something tells me she's painfully aware of our time apart.

I will confess to still having a random wish during my day that she would contact me. I'm not acting on it. I don't want the selfish, self centered version of my W that left a month ago. She's not so nice. If I had to look for a new mate, she wouldn't be a candidate. I guess I have to continue to think like that.