Mainly my heart. I came to the point where I finally DETACHED. Which meant I was thinking clearly, possibly for the 1st time, and came to the realization that I could not keep holding on to someone who obviously did not want me, most likely won't ever want me, and still maintain my own mental and physical health.
I am not "well" yet. But I have had some wonderful times over the last 6 months, and I have hope that I will be completely ok in the near future.
I never thought I would be ok before without her. But I was wrong.
Now I just want to rip the bandaid off and be done worth the divorce. If this is not the place to talk about that, I completely understand.
I want to thank everyone who ever replied to my posts "back then" because you really helped me out. It's been so long I can't remember many names...(25, sandy, labug, crimson come to mind) as I read again I'm sure more will come back.
So, if it's ok, anyone else want to discuss the process of going ahead with the D? How to cope? How to not let this happen again?
DM
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.
Sorry that it has come to this. Yes, there's life after divorce and you might want to move your tiki-hut over in the Surviving Big D forum. There's a bunch of fun people who have gone through D and came out much stronger for it.
DM, hello, we don't know one another but if you are beginning a new peace for yourself, then I am happy for you. I'm sure it's still rough stuff. Sending you support and just remember, all that DB'ing you did was more for you than anyone else! Stay here, find those who have walked your path, and Happy New Year!
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
I would agree with Wonka about moving over to Surviving the Big D because they are surviving and thriving. A few blips in the road now and then but, that's life.
All the best.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
