Awww Planet, you don't know that any action of yours would have made a difference so let go of chastising yourself.

XW is responsible for her emotional outbursts.

If she's threatening people with physical violence what are your choices of action?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss