The relationship before was good with FIL, it's been bad with MIL since we arrived here. MIL is a controller and rescuer and W has no problem being the victim. I'm getting that from the Triangle thing from my last thread that I read the article on about perpetrator, rescuer and victim.
In-laws and I do not talk anymore, but I do feel it necessary to apologize to them for things directly related to my drinking that they witnessed. FIL called me a week after BD because W had me write him a check for $400 the day she was leaving me. I also mailed him a card, thanking him for letting us stay and live with them when we arrived here. FIL called me to say he received the card, and that they still cared for me, but that was last contact. Also, FIL who is well off financially, cashed my $400 check knowing how is daughter played me and had me write it. Sort of showed me his character. Had it been me in that situation, I would not have cashed the check.
As far as the other things in the letter, I do think I need to apologize for them, but unsure if they should be in the same letter.
W thinks the sun rises and sets on her parents, especially MIL. Any future R with W would require making amends to family, specifically her Mother.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
