I don't think any of this should cause us to violate our own personal ideals or integrity. if you feel that this is your boundary (personally, I couldn't do that either) then you should say something IMHO. Just my 2 cents.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14