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[WB2014]

I'm updating on this thread again because my into thread hasn't been approved! Hope I pop up soon! Need support and want to tell more details of my story. Don't remember what I wrote on the first thread.

Just had a nice afternoon out with H. Lunch out, and grocery shopping while the kids stayed home. We had easy conversation and it was fun. No tension and he was open to the idea of getting on antidepressants - which he definitely needs. He has anger issues, and can sink low into a funk and has family history. He's been on them before.

Anyway, we were almost home and he was complaining about something. I lightheartedly said "don't be so negative" jokingly - because he always says I'm so negative...

Well, then he launched into a attack on me. I quickly shut up and didn't engage. Unlike me to back down. In years past, that would have turned into a full on fight. So we were riding along in the car, I was quiet and about 10 mins in he said "so you are just going to sit over there and stew???" I said, "No, I'm not stewing. I'm fine. But you just lashed out at me for no reason and I'm not interested in being the brunt of it."

That shut up him up. I was hoping for an apology - he regularly lashes out and then apologizes.

I didn't get one... So we got home and he had to run a few errands. I told him to go ahead and go in a normal tone, and said I would unload the groceries. I just wanted him out of the house at that point so he wouldn't sit there, stew himself, anger more and continue to convince himself that he's in a horrible situation.



Anyway...