Wif wants Divorce, I do Not 2

[tough spot]

If i was in your situation i would definitely need to go see a counselor. I need to even in the situation that i am in, and there doesn't appear to be the complication of an OM (I went to my first visit Thursday).

Hopefully my counseling won't all be about the marriage. After all, the reason I am going is that I know that last couple of years of my marriage I have been stagnant. I need growth and to deal with past issues, most not even related to my wife.

Realistically, imagine how much my wife could get out of the relationship if I myself admit that I need some work. A relationship sure can't be 'healthy' if one of the people are 'sick'. That was/is me. Granted I am not saying everything in the marriage was my problem, but honestly at this point i would say the greater share was.

So I am going to continue counseling, get back involved into AA, see if I can be a better person. Then if my being a 'better person' opens the marriage door/reconciliation with my wife, then we can get to the fun stuff and discuss her issues