Mid October w and I had a nice dinner together. We had been meeting up every couple of weeks for about two months. During that time w was sometimes flirty and at one point asked for sex via text, but that never materialized.
After the mid October meeting w thanked me for a nice relaxing evening. The next week I signed her up for a licensure course that she needed and she thanked me telling me that I am wonderful. The next week we exchanged some vaguely flirty texts, but at one point she didn't respond to a text I sent.
About a week later and just before Halloween, I sent a text to w asking for a picture of me from a previous Halloween. She said that she would send the picture but never did.
About a week laterf I sent a friendly text to w about a memory of us taking a class together. She did not respond.
Another week plus passed when I sent a text teasing her that she had been abducted by aliens and that is why we had been out of communication. A few days later on the Friday before my birthday in mid November she texted me back laughing at my text and asking me what I was doing. I sent a friendly response wishing her a happy weekend; I was busy.
My birthday was on Monday. She sent a very friendly happy birthday text and asked if she could take me for a drink. I responded, yes and we were to see each other Wednesday.
Late afternoon that Wednesday I had not heard from her so I sent a text and she responded that she go caught up in work with her boss and gave me a raincheck. She said was working all the time to keep her boss happy and that was her entire life.
A day or two later I sent a text suggesting that we get together on a weekend and she said that she would work right through the weekends. I suggested that she could pause to eat or get a drink and she said that she was out of town for the next two weekends. I let it go. Felt like maybe I pursued too hard.
A week and a half or two weeks later was thanksgiving. I sent a happy thanksgiving text and she did not respond.
After thanksging weekend I woke up in the middle of the night frustrated and texted her "time for something different".. Made sense to me at 3 am.
She responded "???"
I told her that she had some mail and car registration to pick up at the house. We finally connected a coupl of weeks later and she stopped by briefly to get her stuff and drop off a few Xmas decorations that she had accidentally taken. Saw her for maybe one minute.
On the 23rd our two year phone contract was exactly up and she was apparently desperate to get a new phone. I was out of town and could not help. She got a new phone and number.
This past Friday I had to meet with her to with her to transfer liability for a phone line that belonged to her sons girlfriend.
The store was not busy and I got there a few minutes before her. Once she arrived she she only had to show her id and we were done. We were together literally 15 seconds.
We went our separate ways; she looked hurried and discombobulated.
That's it. That brings my situation up to date.
I am trying to figure out what to do next. In February my situation will be a year old.
The options that I can think of: 1. Stay dark like like I have been since thanksgiving. See if she eventually reaches out to me, or work on moving on.
2. Try and send some friendly communication to her now that the pressure of the holidays has passed.
3. Send her a letter telling her how I feel and basically saying goodbye. Apparently a letter like that would never draw her back in. But at least it would give me some closure to move on.
Me-45 W-44 T-7 years M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated) Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)
