labug and 3, great posts. I have much to respond to, but I have to get going to the airport . . . but wanted to say you opened my eyes this morning.
You are right, I have allowed myself to get sucked into being angry with my H (restarting power struggles, keeping score, etc.), and it is not helping me. I think it is just backlash from so many weeks (months) of taking all the blame and internalizing it. I went from one extreme to the other. I need to reset somewhere in the middle.
3, thank you so much for making this point:
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Your H is not in the position to sit back and think "maybe I should not do this." People who are not in crisis realize that it is probably not a good idea to post a picture on FB with other woman for numerous reasons. He clearly is not getting it.
That is so correct. He is not getting it. But me being mad isn't going to help. That is a great point - he is just not in a place right now to figure this stuff out. So I need to get out of his way and drop my expectations. (Being mad at him, after all, is really just unfulfilled expectations, right?)
More later! But thanks for giving me some things to think about.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
