my wife left, but still lives with me

[tough spot]

My wife initiated an R discussion last night. It had to do mainly with the living arrangement. Her lawyer sent her a note (she hasn't even hired him, was a free consultation, so for him to send a note to her makes her think/feel it was very important). Anyway, the note said 'under no circumstances are you to move out of the house'.

So far, things are relatively amicable about the divorce. She knows it isn't what i want, but i have to continue with the process regardless. My lawyer said if we both moved out of the house equally (my stay in the home but parents rotate out idea) than there wouldn't be any trouble with custody/someone abandoned the home.

There is a list of 'custodial factors'....one of which is 'abandoning the home'. My wife thinks she can't take the chance with the rotating deal, doesn't believe what my lawyer said. None of this matters unless our divorce gets ugly and one of us decides against 50/50 custody. My wife makes less money so i am 'one up' on her with the custodial factors. So she feels that she doesn't want to risk anything concerning the abandoning the house deal.

During our discussion we agreed that we don't know who to believe. Since I thought the lawyer i talked to was kind of a dick, i am going to seek out another opinion. Once I get that information, my wife and i will talk again.