We all have baggage from the past in some form or another. I know what mine centered on and it was my drinking in my last relationship that brought my M down. That is something I know I cannot do in a new relationship, or in my regular life as well.
As far as being able to be present in a new R, I absolutely think I am. As I mentioned, W is alien to me as of late, and starting over with her would be a new R anyway. I know she and I know each other the best, but it would still have to be a new R as we both have changed.
I do intend to let the dental girl know. Our first meetup was sort of a feel each other out to see if we want to get together again. If she had asked, or the conversation had gone that way, I would have told her. We didn't get that deep, and if she's not interested in getting together again, she doesn't really need to know my business. If she does reach out to me to get together again, then I'll have to let her know for sure.
In your opinion, am I trying to find a new horse too quickly after my old horse died? Just to reiterate timeline, back in May of 2013 is when we turned into a sexless marriage, and W withdrew and got really weird. Really our marriage ended back then, BD in September was when we finally reached the residency requirement of being here 6 months. She had checked out emotionally, and physically well before June. A physical relationship is very important to me, touch is my LL. It's been 8-9 months since I was even able to last cuddle with W, which was one of my favorite things to do. I miss having the physical closeness with someone.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
