"she says the A was not about the Sex, it was about the emotional needs. He made her feel good about herself. I need to learn to do this, quickly!"
You do realize that this is something I and a ton of other posters had told you was the issue in the beginning but you refused to listen. Instead you lectured about social attitudes, Western attitudes, etc. You inflated your own situation so much that you never worked on the ONE thing we all said you should do. Learn how to emotionally connect with your W.
This isn't something that you can just learn overnight. You are seriously going to have to listen to her needs and what she tries to tell you between the lines. BTW, you spent so much time reading BS about "attraction" and how to be "alpha" that you overlooked the simple fact that your W just wanted to be understood.
That's what needs to happen.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
