After meeting up with the dental student, it just confirmed for me that I am a catch and that I have self-worth. We showed up to a coffee shop that had closed, so we audibled to Starbucks. She told me if I wanted to get the hell out, the drive over to Starbucks was my chance. HA! A sense of humor from the moment we met. She absolutely loved my 10th dentist joke, and spent a lot of our conversation smiling and laughing.
She's very family oriented and does live at home with her parents while in school, but seems much more autonomous than my W. She was very well spoken and very intelligent. She also was a college athlete. Conversation was pretty effortless and we didn't have any awkward pauses. For a random internet date, I think it went pretty well. We talked for an hour and a half. I mostly just asked her questions and listened, we never got into anything too deep.
I didn't feel there was any opportunity to bring up my current situation, she never really asked why I moved to this city or anything, I think I did a good job asking a lot about her so she did most of the talking. I did practice repeating back summaries of what she said to make sure I heard her correctly.
I left my phone and watch in the car so I wouldn't check either of them. I really focused on eye contact and smiling. I think it went really well. At first she avoided eye contact with me, but toward the end that went away. We talked for over an hour and a half, it was pretty reassuring. I did tell her I no longer drink, but have no problem going out where people are drinking. As we parted she gave me a hug. If anything, we might be good friends, which would be one more friend in this city than I have now.
This solidified my thoughts on W having to actually compete for me to an extent. There are plenty of eligible career and family oriented women out there that will be interested in me. I feel in my heart that with the changes I have made, that W is being a fool to leave.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
