KeepGoing, thank you so much. I feel less alone knowing you're out there too!
Ces, H isn't changing much if at all. He doesn't seem happy, he seems to do alone-type activities like running and biking. He's very close-mouthed about what he's up to. He's not getting along better with me, he's just not around as much so what little there is isn't so bad. That he can sit in the kitchen for a while and be pleasant is setting the bar pretty low for me to think that's any kind of interest.
We don't have lawyers doing anything, and he hasn't filed as far as I know. I think he's waiting for me to respond to the proposed settlement agreement he gave me in November of 2012. Meanwhile he's doing what he said he would do in it, paying the mortgage and attempting to see the kids every few weeks if they're willing. He has not explained anything to me since the time in November that we went paragraph by paragraph through his proposal so that I could understand what his position was. I'm not sure what you mean by what he sees happening with us once the divorce is final, so I guess the answer is "assuming and plugging along."
He said once that he wasn't in a hurry to get divorced, just to get the settlement agreement completed, but then he hasn't turned out to be in a huge hurry for that either. The context was he wanted to make sure if anything happened to him while he was working overseas that I wouldn't get anything he didn't want me to be entitled to. I think he's calmed down since then. That was in August 2011.
Things move slow in my world. Some other people's sitches take my breath away they move so wildly.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
