Oh Callie. You know I for one think you are really kicking this DBing thing in the butt... don't doubt your instincts, you seem to really get this stuff.
And you know, even if once in awhile you make a choice that wasn't the "perfect" option for the scenario and what is best to make your H come running home, sometimes that choice is that is BEST for you. I think with the shopping situation that is the call you made, and it was not a "mistake" it was what you needed. And meeting your own needs and keeping your own head straight seems to me to be WAY more important than making a one time decision to do something with H or not.
You should know by now just by watching me that one misstep (or a dozen) doesn't decide the entire thing... this is a "long game" you have to just pace yourself and do what you need to do to keep playing.
me-35 WAS-37 T-16 1/2 Son-14 (HF Aspergers) BD,ILYBINILWY,"I met my soulmate": Oct5,2013 "Letting go because I love him, holding on because I love him."
