From your post it doesn't seem like he's changing much. Maybe a little more cordial but still the same in mindset.

Does he ever bring up details about handing the divorce or do you all leave it for the lawyers to handle? You mentioned the finances above but has he explained what he sees happening with you all once the divorce is final or is he just assuming and plugging along?

Me:45, W:45
S:16 D:13
M:22, T:25
Bomb: July 2010
Putting finances in order for "D"
Continue to live in same home-separate rooms