I think a question you still have to ask yourself is if you will bbelieve/be satisfied with his answer (unless it's an admission that he does intend to date) and if so for how long/under what circumstances. Say he says no but then nothing changes in your situation for a few weeks. Will you feel the need to ask him again? I sure did. Was NEVER satisfied with the answer.
Also something to consider would be what level of dating could you or could you not tolerate. If he met a woman for coffee, is that a deal breaker?
I get what you are saying, Dingo, but then I think, what exactly does tolerate mean?
I don't "tolerate" any of this crap. I certainly do not "tolerate" what my H is doing to my children. But I have no choice. I can't do anything about it. I mean, I could file for D, but what good would that do? Basically, I feel like he will do what he will, and if someday he decides he wants to come back, then we will figure out whether we can each get past all this and make something work. I am at the point where it is painful for me for him to continue the way he is going, because I fear (there's that fear again) that I won't be able to get past the continued emotional annihilation.
As far as ML goes, it just seems that all signs point to me not doing it anymore. You are right. If I ask if he is dating and he says no, I won't likely believe him. And if he says yes, I will probably be pretty crushed. Either way, I doubt I should be ML with him. Like I said before, I can't trust him anymore.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
