BF, you're right, it did bother me. I'm not sure it bothered me because of the relationship between W and me (maybe it did on some level), but I know for sure it bothered me because I just recently had a talk with W about how all the kids have said to me that OM is around too much and it makes them feel uncomfortable. I said to her that of course she's free to do what she wants, but the kids tell me they still hope that we're going to reconcile and while both of us know that will never happen, it hurts them to see OM around all the time. That was maybe a month ago. I offered to let W have the kids on one day of Christmas week (I had them that week) and she accepted taking them on the evening of Christmas eve. So they got to spend a nice evening and dinner on Christmas eve with W... and OM! (found out from the kids later) Then this week they go on a ski trip with W... and OM! Ugh! It just irks me that he's around the kids so much. He seems like a nice guy, that's not the issue. The issue is the kids are still struggling to accept the sitch and W just keeps throwing OM in their faces. I'm not going to say anything else to W about it since I already did and she chose to ignore it, so I'm just venting about it here, thanks for listening
Thank you for the feedback on my boss's sitch. He said that the only times they ever ML were after she had had a lot to drink but wasn't drunk enough to pass out, otherwise she never wanted to. Obviously I'm only hearing one side to the story, but his comment is that she was the one that never wanted to but he did. It could be that she didn't want to because there was a general lack of affection (that's why I suggested 5LL to him). I haven't talked to him beyond that one lunch, I'm sure we'll be talking more about it.
