Ellie,

I agree with Soupman. I think that this whole piecing business is a test. It is a test of how much we have truly grown and changed. It is a test of our strength and commitment to the Db beliefs.
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...Only that it pained me to figure out that while I was suffering the aftereffects of the radioactive iodine treatment that ablated my thyroid, he was thinking to himself "gee, maybe I could find myself a woman like this who's thinner and more athletic than my wife is right now". I always thought that this thinking was a precursor that helped get my H to the point where he was vulnerable to the OW when she showed up...




Ellie, you should know better by now! Where's the 2x4? Did you suddenly become clairvoyant? How can anyone know what your H was thinking? Many assumptions here!!! These are your own neurotic devils talking in your head! I recognize them because I have them too. This is a self-esteem challenge that takes time to heal. Remember, your H is with YOU now. He has chosen to be with YOU...not anyone else who is thinner or younger or whatever. Don't squander what you have TODAY by worrying about what happened in the past.

Keep moving forward! Chin up...chest out! Maybe you should trip in his face again.

Christine

I am the master of creating positive energy and love in my own environment. I am the source of love in my life. It starts with me! This energy radiates from me! It gives me strength, courage, wisdom and grace!