Have you accepted that it is done? Have you decided officially that there is no hope? I am torn between giving up, coming up with a 'plan', then deciding to db'ing instead. I waver between the three on any given moment of any given day.
It is the back and forth emotionally that makes it difficult. Right now, my wife asked my son if he could get the movie 'turbo' off the internet for the little kids to watch. Basically condoning the fact of my 18 year old illegally downloading a video! I said 'I am not so sure I agree with that, us condoning illegal activity'. Her response........nothing.....putting on a pair of headphones and watching something on her computer. I feel so low, her thinking i am not even worth responding to?
Things get worse unless i am d'bing. That makes things in the house easier....wife and i get along better. However the divorce preparations continue. Meanwhile I feel like i am living a lie. So what good is d'bing? Arguing with her about going to counseling or why we should stay together seem like they would bear more fruit. How do you handle it with your wife?
She went from wanting to move out to now wanting me to move out. That was about 3 days ago she announced she thought that was a good idea. I haven't brought it up but i have no plans on moving out. If she wants out, she can move out. Even though financially it would be about the worst thing possible.
I stated we should stay in the house with the kids and us parents rotate out and stay at our parents. She thinks that is a bad idea. But that way we are separated and the kids get to stay in the home. What are your plans for the 'eventual' situation?
me 41 w43 married 20 years BD 10/10/13 ILYBNILWY.... 4 kids, 21,18,8,6
