5'3 3/4" Median weight for 5'4" would be 120 lbs. Her frame is similar to mine, though, and I was quite slender in high school (with normal eating habits) - I was 5'6" and 118 - so an acceptable "normal" weight for her at her height might be around 108.
I was just reading an old thread of Calystra's from early last year where you posted, back in the days before your H was home, and it brought home to me how far you had come in your situation.
I just had a horrible weekend and wonder if the positives I listed have any significance? Could you nip over to my thread and give me a word of advice?
I wish I could think of things to say about your and your D, but I'm pretty ignorant about anorexia (in terms of knowing or seeing it close up) and just pray - there, but for the grace of God, go I.
I hope you had a good weekend!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
How are things with your D? I hope your family had a great weekend. Are the health concerns interfereing with her music? I hope not, because that seems like it would be a nice healthy diversion for her. Wow, it seems like 10 pounds isn't that much, I know there is really no comparison, but I can gain 10 pounds without even trying... But I guess it is more than 10% of her weight. Are there any calorie dense foods that she really enjoys?
My BIL who was anorexic has developed an eating lifestyle of many many small snacks. They keep a big bag of M&Ms in the freezer, and he'll get himself a dixie cup full to snack on while watching TV. He also snacks on cereal alot. Anything that comes in lots of little pieces
Thinking of you and wishing you the best. It has been gorgeous up here now that the rain has stopped. My D is going to SoCAl to check out colleges in a few weeks.
Love SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
Hey, SG, is your daughter looking at any in San Diego? I'd be happy to show her around.
D is doing okay - yes, she does tend to eat more when the food is in small pieces and when she's taking things out of a big bowl where she can't really notice how much she's had. My mom was on a fudge-baking craze a couple of weeks ago, that was good to have in the house for her, bad for the rest of us
Yes, it's amazing how hard it is to get the weight on her - couldn't I just transplant my extra ten directly to her? Then we'd both be happy
Had a good weekend overall with the family, we went to see Hidalgo last night - good movie, although I'm disappointed to find out today that the "true story" it is based on is apparently the work of a master con man!
I'm really looking forward to this weekend - I get to go to Florida (Boca Raton) for a couple of days with my H on a business trip. I can definitely use some time alone with him
Had a good weekend overall with the family, we went to see Hidalgo last night - good movie, although I'm disappointed to find out today that the "true story" it is based on is apparently the work of a master con man!
I remember finding out the Patch Adams movie was rather loosely based on the story - I guess to ME, if something is true and worth telling, you don't add a lot of filler to it. It then feels manipulative.
Hi Ellie...I noticed your input on another thread, and I think you've stopped by mine before. I have a long post in piecing, where I just jumped desparately on Saturday, the thread is "I need input quickly". I've been in newcomers since December, I know I've talked w/ you there. anyway, I would love it if you would could critique my sitch when you have time....I like the concrete way you break things down step by step, and I could sure use that right now. thanks. --Deb
Well, found out today that a friend of my H's has ovarian cancer.
Background - this is a woman in her 30's (divorced, single mom) who has worked with my h on charity committees. During the fall of 2002, a couple of months before the bomb, when my thyroid was at it's lowest and I was feeling exhausted and awful, H went on a weekend father-and-son trip to go waterskiing with some friends. This woman was also invited because she's a single mom (?) altho she was the only woman there. I remember H coming back from that weekend and talking about what a neat person she was. I wasn't jealous at the time (see what a saint I was ) because my extroverted husband is always very interested in people. Later, after the bomb was dropped about the OW (someone else) I thought suspiciously back to that weekend, and knew that at that time, my H must have been comparing me to this skinny, athletic woman in a very negative way.
Now let me make myself clear - I do not now nor did I ever really suspect my h of anything with this woman. Only that it pained me to figure out that while I was suffering the aftereffects of the radioactive iodine treatment that ablated my thyroid, he was thinking to himself "gee, maybe I could find myself a woman like this who's thinner and more athletic than my wife is right now". I always thought that this thinking was a precursor that helped get my H to the point where he was vulnerable to the OW when she showed up. And so it has always been a little difficult for me, dealing with this woman, although it's absolutely not her fault. And as my h has gotten to know her better, he has also gotten to see more of how dysfunctional she is.
She is a sweet person, though, and now faced with a serious problem. Luckily, the type of ovarian cancer she has (dysgerminoma) has a 90% cure rate - but she will still have to go through chemo, lose her hair, the whole nine yards. My H is a very caring person who knows she doesn't have a very good support system, and wants us both to really be there for her - and I will. I just need to exorcise those old demons! So I guess that's why I'm venting this here to you all. Then I can go out and be my usual saintly self
I do feel badly for her. Her teenage son just went to live with his dad (in the same area, though) and she broke up with her boyfriend a few months ago. Pretty bad timing, and her family is pretty dysfunctional, full of biodad/stepdad/stepmom/half-siblings/family secrets - quite a mess.
But I guess it is more than 10% of her weight. Are there any calorie dense foods that she really enjoys?
) because my extroverted husband is always very interested in people. Later, after the bomb was dropped about the OW (someone else) I thought suspiciously back to that weekend, and knew that at that time, my H must have been comparing me to this skinny, athletic woman in a very negative way.