my wife left, but still lives with me

[OneDay]

I am surprised my wife has not asked me what was discussed at the lawyers yesterday. She had shared with me some of what was spoken about when she had went to her attorney consultation.

A large part of my difficulty/source of pain/source of anxiety about this sitch is my lack of control. I should perhaps say 'illusion of control'. I can't control her, still working on detaching and having some success.

I would say be pretty vague about what your attorney has said. This is not something you would discuss with somebody you love. I say if she wants to talk about what her said fine but I would not talk about what your attorney has said

I know what you mean by the lack of control. But I think it's more that we LBS were not ready for this and it's hard for us to accept the fact that our WAS are more than willing to get a divorce. Almost as if we never even mattered to them before. I know exactly how you feel. I also live with my WAS. For the most part she seems as if everything is just fine and dandy. It came as a shock to me when my WAS said she was done and I did not want to believe it. Even though is hard, I have come to accept it. I do know how hard it is but try to accept the fact that she is done and it might make things easier for you.