Hi 2S2Q, you made me laugh apologizing for your verbal diarrhea - I doubt I have ever posted anything shorter.
It's an interesting situation with your W. I actually think that in many respects, my H felt the same way (trapped, suffocated, whatever it was). He used to always think he just didn't have any time to himself . . . and now he has admitted that he doesn't know what to do with all the time he has now. I wonder if some people just don't ever figure it out.
Do you think that your W truly just can't hack it as part of a family with responsibilities and obligations, or do you think that she has issues she is not facing, and this is just how they are manifesting? Is she trying to figure out what it is that bothers her? Does she want to be part of the family, but just can't figure out how? This is judgmental of me, but it really irks me when people make the conscious decision to take the easy way out - which is what this seems like to me. (Not that I have any judgments about my own WAS, mind you. )
Was it your 9 year old who found the iPad? My D is also 9 and I am pretty careful about not letting her see this site. But, I think that for your W to come here and try to find you might take some effort - I imagine she wouldn't recognize your user name - so perhaps not that much to worry about. I would, however, put a password on my iPad if I were you!
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
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