my wife left, but still lives with me

[tough spot]

I am surprised my wife has not asked me what was discussed at the lawyers yesterday. She had shared with me some of what was spoken about when she had went to her attorney consultation.

Yesterday she said she was 'tense' and i figured she would be curious about my lawyer. Anyway, not going to bring it up...not much sense in speculating what she is thinking anyway.

Pretty sure she will file for divorce soon. Honestly, i think i could convince her not to. However, i also don't think if we 'got back together' at this point that she wouldn't always have doubts, and that the marriage would continue on too much like it was before BD. And we would soon be back exactly where we are now.

So I think she is so far gone right now, to set in the current mindset, that perhaps separation would be best. Then we could either work on ourselves and reconcile, or work on ourselves and think the divorce is the best way to go. Or, she could just revel in the freedom and we would be done for sure.

A large part of my difficulty/source of pain/source of anxiety about this sitch is my lack of control. I should perhaps say 'illusion of control'. I can't control her, still working on detaching and having some success.