There are a couple of things about friends with benefits. First, regardless of the sex moratorium which she imposed, any sexual affair is an immediate marriage ender as far as she is concerned.
In other words, your wife's condition is that she will stay in the marriage as long as you're totally celibate for the long-term. Which is the complete opposite of what a marriage is supposed to provide. Your wife has redefined marriage to be a total sexual prison.
You know, with her definition of marriage, perhaps the Catholic Church would consider allowing priests to get married after all! Celibacy would still be maintained!
And so what I always ask in this situation, and which I've never received a logical answer to is, if a woman thinks sex is that unimportant, why would she mind if you had something that unimportant with someone else?
Or to ask it another way, what does she get out of knowing that you are celibate? Does she mind that you masturbate? If not then what is it about "friend assisted" masturbation that would bother her? Is it just intercourse with someone else that bothers her? Or just an emotional connection with another woman, even if it didn't include sex of any kind?
Perhaps she just wants a husband who is a skeleton in a chair that she can talk to, and spin around for the audience to gasp at? Don't know why, but that famous movie scene is what came to mind.
