1) How did W behave during post-op recovery? What was her overall demeanor?
2) As for visiting the ILs for the first time in 13 years, how did that make you feel? How did W feel about this? Did that encourage more closeness between you two?
3) Where does W stand in regard to the ex-OW?
4) Are there plans to attend Gottman-based MC?
Good job with being willing to change your perspective. Not an easy thing to do as we generally like to dig in when it comes to our own thoughts and beliefs.