I think that is what I keep needing to tell myself over and over no matter what...stop R talk.
I think the part I'm questioning now is....he comes over here one night a week to see the kids and then takes them one day a week and then stays for a few hours after bringing them home. This has been going on for 1 1/2 years. We are usually cordial and friendly. Have spent holidays together but still nothing has changed (as far as I can see) in our R (him wanting to make it work,letting go of OW,etc)...
Is it time to change that dynamic in the hope that it will change his outlook?? I just don't know..
Almost 2 years is a long time to hang on the sidelines so to speak.
