I just feel like I need to hang on to the interaction we do have, thinking that keeps some tie to him even though I know he is going to do what he is going to do...
If I cut that off, then what do I have left...I know I need to do what is going to make me respected but still...
You don't have to cut that off, the DB approach is to not pursue, but it's OK to reply if he initiates. Just don't pressure him with relationship talks. Some here call it the "friendly neighbor" approach, converse with him like you would a friendly neighbor. Light, fluffy talk. Sometimes people have to "go dark" and cut off all contact for themselves, because they need time and space to help them detach from their WAS and get off their roller coaster. But I don't think you're there yet.
