Haven't posted for while... Too sad about Christmas, New Year and crappy emails
after agreeing to share a house he then emailed that he wants to live alone, then said we could see how that works and maybe then get a house together..really if he lived within travelling distance I would not give it another thought. But to live there I need to find a new job. He is still with the OW on weekends he says.
I have decided to visit him. He said that he does not want to spend the weekend driving. So I said I would come up. He did not say I don't want to see you. He said I can't stay with him, he has a "visitor".
So we are spending Sunday together...H e wants to meet away from his apartment..
I don't get it. We have talked about the affair. I know about it... I did read that people having affairs don't like the 2 parts of their lives together.
Last weekend he was entered in a 15k with the OW. I was also going to a race as a spectator with my running team. He told me he was running that day , I told him I was going to a race in W.. when I asked where he was running he told me a different town, but I had seen the entries..while checking for my team.. I did not call him on the lie..said I would have cheered for him if I had seen him at the end of the race. She went and he did not..What is with that All his organizations of where and when to meet are the sort of controlling behaviors he does not like me to use!
I am tempted to ignore his rules.....he does not own the country... However that will not achieve my long term goal
I wonder if visiting is pursuing? He avoids stress and some of his thoughts at the moment are weird. Like sell the house and put all the furniture on the street. Which if it was not things crom his grandfather that he used to treasure I could maybe understand, also things he owned before we we together.. again objetcs he used to value.. He was open to me visiting if we were not having frustrating conversations. ? Meaning me not agreeing with him. I plan to affirm and validate.. have a calm and positive experience am I delusional..
