I made her responsible for my happiness without even realizing it.
I did the same thing. Rather than being supportive I placed more of a burden on him.
I also realize that whenever he was in a bad mood I made it about me. I pushed him to open about what was bothering him, and when my questions didn't work I then assumed that I must be the problem. So I would keep pushing to talk about until he would lash out and i felt like that confirmed that his moods really were about me all along. Now I realize that when he is in a bad mood, if I just leave it alone and stay positive, eventually he will come around (and maybe even open up). But if I push to find out why, then I become part of the problem even if I wasn't initially.
I'm the opposite. When I am in a bad mood I need to talk about it. And he doesn't want to hear it. So once again, i feel rejected. Rejected because he won't open up, and rejected because he doesn't want to hear when I need to open up. I hate this suffering in silence business. I feel like I am drowning.
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
