I can totally empathize with that pain and desperation you felt in the early days - many of the items on the list apply to me, too. I am so glad that you have found a way up for air - not only to survive, but to thrive. I think that any newbies who read your post will surely see that there is hope and have the inspiration to hang in there and keep trucking along. I wish that I had seen your post in the first few weeks after BD!
You forgot one other - not to label your journey, but if I may -
Then: came to this board in desperate need of help Now: offer support, inspiration and wise counsel to so many others in desperate need of help.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14