my wife left, but still lives with me

[tough spot]

ha, lawyer told me even if it was in my name only....until there is a divorce actually filed, would be considered 'marital debt'.
That is of course within reason. I couldn't have a girlfriend and take her to Europe and have that considered marital debt.

So now even if she has a card in her own name (she does) technically a great majority of whatever is purchased on it could be argued as marital debt and i would be responsible!

But things very stressful but still amicable. I had a talk with her about 'please be open with what you are doing'. So like yesterday she told me she was going to the lawyer. I thanked her.

However, when i was deleting the paypal account, while in the midst of it I told her what i was doing. She got pissed. Kind of see why, as i didn't discuss/tell her about it 'ahead' of time....just like i asked her to do. Sometimes my brain doesn't work very well.....